UNDERSTANDING THE OTHER PERSON AND NOT ASKING HIM/HER TO CHANGE DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOU SHOULD NOT SPEAK ABOUT THINGS THAT HURT OR YOU WOULD LIKE TO DO OR HEAR. YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO HAVE DESIRES FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIP AND IT IS ESSENTIAL TO KNOW HOW TO EXPRESS THEM TO YOUR PARTNER- WITHOUT BLAMING HIM/HER. YOU CANT BLAME YOUR PARTNER FOR NOT UNDERSTANDING SOMETHING YOU DID NOT TELL HIM/HER. THAT’S WHAT I FIND MOST DIFFICULT TO DO IN MY RELATIONSHIP. HAVING TROUBLE ASSERTING ON WHAT I WANT, WHAT I LIKE AND WHAT I DON’T WANT. I WOULD LIKE MY COMPANION TO GUESS MY THOUGHTS AND DESIRES WITHOUT ME EXPRESSING THEM. EXCEPT THAT’S NOT POSSIBLE AND THAT IS WRONG SOMETIMES. RATHER THAN BLAME THAT PERSON I LEARN TO BETTER ARTICULATE WHAT I WANT.