RELATIONSHIP ADVICE..
Author: lively550
I'm a cool, down to earth individual looking to share my thoughts, Ideas and experiences with the world.
SHORT RELATIONSHIP POEM..
THE LIES OF LOVE SEPARATES TWO ATTACHED DOVES, BRING A SHINE TO MY WHINE, LET’S FLY BEYOND AND ABOVE.
THINKING OF TIMES WE BOND TOGETHER, NOW BALANCING OUR RELATIONSHIP ON
A SINGLE FEATHER, PERHAPS I THOUGHT AND BELIEVED IN YOU, TO BE BETTER.
STAY CLOSE BUT NOT TOO NEAR, CAUSE I DO NOT WANT TO SEE ANOTHER LAYER,
DON’T LEAVE ME IN DARK, I AM STRANGLING IN FEAR.
HOLD ME TIGHT AND MAKE IT RIGHT, GIVE US ANOTHER CHANCE TO GET THROUGH THE NIGHT.
BEHOLD! I CAN WITNESS SOME HOPE AND A SPARKLING LIGHT.
IT’S NEVER OK..
SO IS IT THAT SOME PEOPLE THINK JUST BECAUSE THEY ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE OR EVEN A MARRIAGE, THAT THAT PERSON HAVE THE RIGHT TO PUT THEIR HANDS ON THEM ANY KIND OF WAY? I OFTEN WONDER ABOUT THIS. DO YOU THINK THIS MAY BE WHY THEY DON’T DEFEND THEMSELVES? WELL NEWS FLASH, NO ONE AND I MEAN NO ONE HAVE THAT RIGHT TO DO HARM TO YOU. IT IS NEVER OK AND YOU DON’T HAVE TO PUT UP WITH IT. YOU NEVER HAVE TO BE SOMEONE’S PUNCHING BAG. YOU ALWAYS DESERVE BETTER WHETHER YOU BELIEVE YOU DO OR NOT. I DECIDED TO WRITE THIS BECAUSE MAYBE IT COULD GET THROUGH TO SOMEONE THAT NEEDS TO SEE IT.
A PROPOSAL LOVE STORY..
AS USUAL AVRIL’S DAY STARTED WITH AN ALARM AT 6 IN THE MORNING. SHE FELT LIKE NOT LEAVING THE BED; HOWEVER, IT IS NOT HER USUAL ROUTINE. SHE IS IN FACT, VERY ACTIVE, SHE DOES YOGA AND RUNS IN THE MORNING. BUT IT IS NOT THE SAME TODAY, SHE FEELS LOW AND HELPLESS IN HER OWN WORLD. AVRIL, A TEAM LEAD IN A SOFTWARE COMPANY HAS ALWAYS BEEN A DEDICATED PERSON TOWARDS HER WORK AND LIFE. ALWAYS A PROBLEM SOLVER IS NOW STRUGGLING TO GET ANSWERS FOR HER OWN LIFE. SHE FEELS LOW, DEPRESSED, AND HELPLESS SINCE LAST WEEK, AFTER SAMUEL PROPOSED AVRIL FOR MARRIAGE, SHE IS FEELING LIKE THIS. AS SHE NEVER EXPECTED SOMETHING LIKE THAT IS GOING TO HAPPEN IN HER LIFE. AVRIL AND SAMUEL HAVE BEEN GREAT FRIENDS SINCE DAY ONE WHEN THEY MET IN THE OFFICE DURING INDUCTION IN THE YEAR 2016. AS BOTH OF THEM WERE NEW AND FRESHER, THEY COULD CONNECT WELL. GRADUALLY THEY BECAME GOOD FRIENDS. HOWEVER, JUST A YEAR BACK SAMUEL CHANGED HIS COMPANY AND JOINED SOME OTHERS, STILL THEY WERE GOOD FRIENDS AND USED TO CATCH UP ON WEEKENDS. EVERYBODY IN THE OFFICE KNEW THAT SAMUEL HAD A SOFT CORNER FOR AVRIL, HE LIKES HER A LOT. TO SOME EXTENT, AVRIL ALSO LIKED SAMUEL. BUT BECAUSE OF HER PAST SHE WAS NOT READY TO ACCEPT ANY SUCH FEELING. SHE WOULD DENY ALL SUCH FEELINGS. AVRIL NEVER SHARED HER PAST WITH ANYBODY, NOT EVEN WITH SAMUEL, AS SHE NEVER FELT IT WAS NEEDED. SHE IS A STRONG HEADED GIRL, WHO FOUGHT ALL THE ODDS IN ORDER TO GROW IN HER LIFE. SHE LEFT EVERYTHING BEHIND, AND JUST FOCUSED ON HER PRESENT. A GIRL WHO IS VERY OPTIMISTIC, POSITIVE, AND CHEERFUL HAD HER OWN SHARE OF PAINS, WHICH SHE NEVER SHARED WITH ANYBODY. PEOPLE AT THE OFFICE LOOK UPON HER WHENEVER THEY FIND THEMSELVES STUCK. TODAY, AVRIL FELT REALLY ALONE AS SHE HAS NO ONE TO SHARE HER FEELINGS WITH. SHE CAN’T FIND ANYONE TO COUNT ON, SHE FEELS EXTREMELY SECLUDED. SHE MANAGED TO MAKE A CUP OF COFFEE FOR HERSELF, SHE SAT ON HER BALCONY AND STARTED SIPPING HER COFFEE. AND SUDDENLY SHE WAS THERE WHERE SHE NEVER WISHED TO GO….. IN HER PAST.
ALL HER PAST MEMORIES STARTED GUSHING OVER. SHE COULD SEE PAUL (HER EX-HUSBAND) PROPOSING HER FOR MARRIAGE. SHE WAS EXCITED, ENTHRALLED AND ON THE CLOUD NINE THAT DAY. WITHOUT WASTING A MOMENT SHE SAID ‘YES’ FOR THE WEDDING WITH PAUL. AS SHE ALWAYS WANTED TO MARRY HIM. SHE LOVED HIM ALWAYS FROM HER COLLEGE DAYS. IT WAS HER DREAM THAT CAME TRUE FOR HER. IN THE YEAR 2014, BOTH OF THEM GOT MARRIED IN A LAVISH WEDDING CELEBRATION THAT INCLUDED THEIR FRIENDS AND FAMILY MEMBERS. THEY CHOSE HAWAII FOR THEIR HONEYMOON AND SPENT 15 WONDERFUL DAYS THERE IN EACH OTHER’S COMPANY. THEY WERE THE BEST DAYS OF AVRIL’S LIFE. AFTER COMING BACK FROM THEIR HONEYMOON, THEY RESUMED THEIR OFFICES AND LIFE WAS GOING GOOD. UNTIL SIX MONTHS OF THEIR MARRIAGE, LIFE WAS GREAT. ONE DAY, AVRIL GOT A CALL FROM HER MOTHER THAT SHE IS NOT WELL. AVRIL CALLED PAUL AND TOLD HER THAT SHE IS LEAVING FOR HER MOTHER’S PLACE AND WOULD COME BACK AFTER A WEEK. SHE WENT TO HER MOTHER’S PLACE, LIVED THERE WITH HER MOM. AFTER FOUR DAYS SHE THOUGHT THAT SHE WOULD LEAVE A LITTLE EARLY AND SURPRISE PAUL. HER MOTHER WAS ALSO ABSOLUTELY FINE. SHE STARTED TWO DAYS BEFORE FOR HER HOME. ON THE TRAIN SHE WAS HAPPY WITH THE THOUGHT THAT SHE WAS GOING TO SURPRISE HER HUSBAND. SHE WAS PLANNING WHAT ALL SHE WOULD DO TO SURPRISE PAUL. SHE REACHED HOME, TOOK OUT HER KEYS AND ENTERED HER HOUSE, (THE HOUSE WHERE SHE STARTED HER MARRIED LIFE WITH THE LOVE OF HER LIFE PAUL). SHE HEADED TOWARDS HER BEDROOM TO KEEP HER BAGS AND RELAX A BIT, THE MOMENT SHE ENTERED HER ROOM, SHE GOT STARTLED.
WHAT SHE SAW WAS REALLY SHOCKING. PAUL WAS THERE IN THE BED ALONG WITH HIS BEST FRIEND LIZA. THEY WERE MAKING OUT, AND AVRIL NEVER REALIZED THAT PAUL WAS CHEATED ON HER. SHE WAS SHATTERED COMPLETELY, HER HEART BROKE. NOW SHE REALIZED THAT DIAMOND NECKLACE THAT SHE SAW SUDDENLY IN PAUL’S CAR WAS NOT FOR HER, IT WAS FOR LIZA. SHE COULD UNDERSTAND NOW, WHY SHE ALWAYS FELT THAT SHE LOVES PAUL MORE THAN HE DOES HER. SHE DIDN’T ASK ANYTHING FROM PAUL, SHE NEVER EXPECTED ANY EXPLANATION SHE WAS JUST BROKEN, COMPLETELY BROKEN. AND SHE JUST LEFT THE HOUSE, WHERE SHE WANTED TO SPEND ALL HER LIFE. WITH THAT SHE LEFT ALL HER DREAMS AND PAST BEHIND! SUDDENLY, THE DOORBELL RANG! AND WITH A START SHE CAME BACK IN THE PRESENT, BACK AGAIN IN THE BALCONY. SHE STOOD, WENT TO THE DOOR, AND OPENED THE DOOR. IT WAS SAMUEL STANDING WITH A BEAUTIFUL BOUQUET AND BROAD SMILE. AVRIL ALWAYS KNEW THAT SAMUEL IS A GREAT GUY, HIS FEELINGS ARE GENUINE AND HE IS A HAPPY-GO-LUCKY MAN. ANYBODY WOULD BE HAPPY TO HAVE HIM. “SHALL I GET IN OR YOU WILL LET ME STAND HERE ONLY,” ASKED SAMUEL.“AW! AH’ AM SORRY, JUST COME IN,” SAID AVRIL. AVRIL REALIZED THAT SHE ISN’T FEELING DISTURBED SEEING SAMUEL, IN FACT, SHE IS FEELING HAPPY. SHE NO MORE FEELS ALONE, PERHAPS SHE IS FEELING GROUNDED!“I WILL TELL EVERYTHING TO SAMUEL, BEFORE SAYING ‘YES” TO HIS PROPOSAL,” SAID AVRIL TO HERSELF WITH A SMILE!
A LOVE STORY INSPIRED BY TRUE EVENTS..
A RELATIONSHIP OF LOVE, RESPECT, AND UNDERSTANDING, A LOVE STORY THAT HAS NO INCEPTION BUT AN ENDING OF SHATTERED DREAMS. IT WAS CERTAINLY NOT A MAINSTREAM RELATIONSHIP WITH RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS, CONFLICTS OR ARGUMENTS, THERE WAS HARMONY AND APPRECIATION IN EVERY STEP OF TOGETHERNESS. THE WORLD BELIEVED SOMETHING MORE THAN JUST A COMPANY OR FRIENDSHIP BUT IT WAS NOT IN SHADOWS OF THE DOUBTS FOR THE COUPLE. THE BOY WAS RECKLESS AT TIMES BUT HAS A GOOD HEART AND IS GENTLE BY NATURE WHEREAS, THE GIRL WAS GOING THROUGH A BREAK-UP AS HER RELATIONSHIP IS NOT GOING WELL AND COUNTERING BUMPS IN THE ROAD.TWO ABSOLUTE STRANGERS FOR A STARTER, FOR LOVE TO SPARK, THERE HAS TO BE SOMETHING COMMON, IN THERE CASE THEY HAVE MUTUAL FRIEND, HE IS THE CHILDHOOD FRIEND OF THE BOY AND STUDIES IN THE SAME CLASS WITH THE GIRL. CALLING HIM A CUPID WON’T BE AN UNDERSTATEMENT, HOWEVER, HE ARRANGES A MEETING AT A SOCIAL EVENT BUT THE GIRL DOES NOT SHOW UP BECAUSE SHE WAS ASKED OUT FOR THE LAST TIME BY HER SOON-TO-BE-EX-BOYFRIEND.THE BOY AND HIS FRIEND ENJOY THEIR TIME AND LEAVE. THE OTHER DAY, THE BOY RECEIVES A MESSAGE, HEY! HE KNEW THAT IT WAS THE GIRL’S NUMBER IMMEDIATELY, THERE WAS A CONNECTION I GUESS,THEN THEY TEXTED BACK AND FORTH TILL THE NIGHT GOT DARKER AND STARS GOT BRIGHTER. AS TIME PASSED BY THEY BOTH FEEL COMFORTABLE AND ENJOYED EACH OTHER’S HUMOR, SHARE THEIR OPINIONS, DID DISCUSSIONS, AND MADE UNSUCCESSFUL PLANS OF MEETING. THEIR FRIENDS’ CIRCLE ALREADY KNOWS THERE IS SOMETHING FISHY BETWEEN THEM BUT THE BOY AND GIRL NEVER ADMIT NOR HAD ANY INTENTIONS.UNPRECEDENTEDLY, THEY MEET AFTER A MONTH OF TEXTING AT A RESTAURANT. IT IS ONE OF THE BEST DAYS BOTH HAD, THEY TALKED, LAUGHED, AND HAD FUN UNTIL THERE WAYS APART. THEY START TO MEET REGULARLY AND MAYBE STARTED TO FEEL FOR EACH OTHER.THEY TAKE LONG WALKS WITHOUT HOLDING HANDS( VERY UNROMANTIC THOUGH) CALL EACH OTHER FOR HOURS, SHARE SIMILAR THOUGHTS ON MANY THINGS ANS POSSESS DIFFERENT OPINIONS AS WELL. THE UNLIKELINESS IS SO ON-POINT THAT THEY NEVER FACE RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS.REMEMBER THAT’S MUTUAL FRIEND? HE CONFRONTS THE BOY AND ASKS ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP AND IN REPLY THE BOY SAYS, I DO NOT MAN, SHE IS PRETTY AND I DON’T KNOW SHE THINKS THE SAME OR SHE EVEN LIKES ME. THE FRIEND ASKS THE SAME THING FROM THE GIRL AND SHE REPLIES, HE HAS NOT APPROACHED ME YET AND I DON’T THINK IF HE LIKES ME IN THAT WAY, ALTHOUGH HE IS CUTE AND ALL BUT I DON’T KNOW UNCERTAINTY IN A RELATIONSHIP IS THE FIRST STEP BUT IT WAS THE LAST IN THIS ONE. ONE DAY SHE GETS A MARRIAGE PROPOSAL AND HER PARENTS ACCEPTED IT AND SURPRISINGLY SHE INDULGES HERSELF IN THAT RELATIONSHIP. THE BOY GOT THE NEWS FROM HIS FRIEND, HE GOT CONFUSED, A BIT HEARTBROKEN AND FELT DISAPPROVED BUT WISHED HER LUCK AND PRAYED FOR THE BEST AND NEVER CONTACTED HER AGAIN
RELATIONSHIP MEME..
RELATIONSHIP MEMES HAVE BEEN VERY POPULAR LATELY. HERE’S ONE I MADE. 97% OF WOMEN GETTING MARRIED WILL PROBABLY EXPERIENCE THIS MOMENT.
CHOOSE YOUR PARTNER WISELY..
BE WITH SOMEONE THAT NOT ONLY TELLS YOU HOW MUCH THEY ADORE YOU BUT ALSO SHOW YOU. MAKE SURE THEY DO WHAT THEY CAN TO KEEP A SMILE ON YOUR FACE. THEY TELL YOU THEY WANT TO DO EVERYTHING WITH YOU. THAT’S THE PARTNER TO HAVE. BE WISE ENOUGH TO KNOW WHEN YOUR BEING PLAYED. BE STRONG ENOUGH TO MOVE ON.
WHEN HE/SHE MAKES YOU FEEL LIKE THIS..
THE KIND OF RELATIONSHIP THAT MAKES YOU FEEL LIKE THIS.
DOING YOGA WITH YOUR PARTNER..
WHEN YOU TWO CAN DO JUST ABOUT ANYTHING TOGETHER.
ROMANTICISM..
I WANT THE KIND OR RELATIONSHIP THAT MAKES ME FEEL LIKE I’M LIVING IN A DREAM/FANTASY WORLD. TO EXPERIENCE ROMANTICISM OVER AND OVER AGAIN. A BEAUTIFUL RELATIONSHIP IS MAKING YOUR PARTNER FEEL LIKE EVERYDAY IS VALENTINES DAY. EVERYDAY IS HIS/HER DAY. I’M SURE EVERYONE WANTS THIS KIND OF RELATIONSHIP. ROMANTICISM IS EVERYTHING IN A RELATIONSHIP. I MAKES THE RELATIONSHIP STRONGER AND LAST LONGER, OTHER THAN COMMUNICATION AND SEX.
SINGLES ON VALENTINES..
IF YOUR SINGLE AND DON’T HAVE A DATE ON VALENTINES, JUST SIMPLY LIGHT UP SOME CANDLES, DIM THE LIGHTS, PUT ON A BEAUTIFUL PIECE OF MUSIC AND SIMPLY ENJOY A NICE CANDLE LIGHT DINNER BY YOURSELF. THERE’S NOTHING WRONG WITH TREATING YOURSELF.
SUPERFICIAL WEAKNESS..
WOULD YOU DATE SOMEONE WHO TOLD YOU THEIR WEAKNESS IS BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE? LETS SAY YOU MET A WOMAN, SHE TELLS YOU HER WEAKNESS IS VERY HANDSOME MEN? OR YOUR A WOMAN AND YOU MET A GUY AND HE TELLS YOU HIS WEAKNESS IS BEAUTIFUL WOMEN? LETS SAY YOUR IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE LIKE THIS, WHETHER ITS A GUY OR A WOMAN. YOU PRETTY MUCH HAVE TO WONDER, CAN HE/SHE BE TRUSTED AROUND OTHER BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE? THIS IS THE MAIN REASON WHY YOU SHOULD NOT ONLY DATE SOMEONE BASED ON HOW THEY LOOK. AND WHAT A RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT SOLID TRUST? NOW YOU MAY BE IN LOVE WITH THIS PERSON, BUT THE QUESTION STILL REMAINS, CAN THEY BE TRUSTED AROUND OTHER HIGHLY ATTRACTIVE PEOPLE? JUST SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT.
GETTING OUT OF A DATE..
IF YOUR ON A DATE WITH SOMEONE YOU MET ONLINE OR WAS SET UP TO GO ON A BLIND DATE AND YOUR NOT ENJOYING THE DATE OR THE PERSON? BUT YOU DON’T WANT TO BE RUDE? HERE’S WHAT YOU CAN DO: GOT TO THE RESTROOM, CALL A FRIEND OR FAMILY MEMBER, TELL THEM TO CALL BACK IN 5 OR 10 MINS. GO BACK OUT, WAIT FOR THE CALL. WHEN THEY CALL PRETEND YOU HAVE TO GO DUE TO AN EMERGENCY. THAT’S A CLEVER WAY OF GETTING OUT OF A DATE.
MORE THAN ONE..
WHEN MORE THAN ONE PERSON WANTS TO DATE YOU AT ONCE. YOU KNOW YOU HAVE TO CHOOSE BUT THE DECISION CAN BE DIFFICULT, ESPECIALLY IF YOU HAVE FEELINGS YOUR ALL OF THEM. WE SOMETIMES CAN HURT PEOPLE UNINTENTIONALLY. BUT THIS DOESN’T MAKE YOU A BAD PERSON. THIS CAN ALSO HURT YOU JUST AS MUCH. YOU CANT HELP WHO YOU LOVE AND YOU ALSO CANT HELP WHO FALLS FOR YOU. SO DON’T GO BEATING YOURSELF UP OVER IT. YOU CAN’T ALWAYS MAKE EVERYONE HAPPY. IT’S IMPOSSIBLE.
A GREAT DATE..
A GREAT DATE/RELATIONSHIP GOALS
- CANDLE LIGHT DINNER ON THE BEACH?
- THEME PARK?
- WATCH A MOVIE AT THE THEATER?
- ROCK CLIMBING
- BUNGEE JUMPING?
- GOING ON A PARACHUTE?
- GOING ON A SAFARI?
- DINNER AT A EXPENSIVE RESTAURANT?
- SOMETHING ELSE?
LOVE QUOTE..
Relationship quote
“Love is the best gift. If you have love, you have the best gift of all.”
-Amanda
ONE SIDED..
IF YOUR ALWAYS THE ONE THAT’S DOING THE KISSING AND HUGGING. IF YOUR ALWAYS THE ONE COMING UP WITH ROMANTIC IDEAS AND THINGS TO DO. YOU ALWAYS FIND YOURSELF DOING EVERYTHING, YEA, YOU MAY BE IN A ONE SIDED RELATIONSHIP.
