OPEN RELATIONSHIPS..

WOULD YOU ENTER A OPEN RELATIONSHIP? I MEAN REALLY, I’M NOT JUDGING ANYONE, BUT THAT’S SOMETHING I WILL NEVER GET. WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO DO THINGS WITH OTHER PEOPLE IF YOUR IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE. DOES THAT MAKE SENSE TO YOU? JUST DON’T REALLY GET THE POINT OF A OPEN RELATIONSHIP. NOT TRYING TO BASH PEOPLE THAT ARE IN THEM  BECAUSE IT’S NONE OF MY BUSINESS. POBBVI FEEL A REAL TRUE LOVE RELATIONSHIP REQUIRES DEDICATION. WOULD YOU REALLY WANT TO BE SITTING AROUND KNOWING YOUR PARTNER IS MESSING WITH OTHER WOMEN OR MEN? IF HE OR SHE REALLY LOVES YOU, WHY WOULD THEY WANT TO BE INVOLVED WITH OTHER PEOPLE?

HEALING AFTER A BAD RELATIONSHIP..

WHATEVER YOU LAST RELATIONSHIP WAS LIKE, IF YOU STILL ARE DEALING WITH PERSONAL ISSUES FROM YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP. DON’T MOVE ON UNTIL YOU ARE REALLY READY. YOU DON’T WANT TO BRING PAST ISSUES INTO A NEW SPACE. ACCEPT THAT IT’S THE PAST AND MOVE ON. IF YOU’VE ENCOUNTERED LOTS OF NEGATIVE EXPERIENCES, IT COULD TAKE TIME TO HEAL, SOME PEOPLE CAN GET OVER IT QUICKER THAN OTHERS,BUT THERE’S NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT. UNDERSTAND THAT EVERYONE IS NOT THE SAME AND YOUR NEXT RELATIONSHIP MAY BE THE BEST YOU’VE EVER HAD.sunset-3936096_960_720

SELF ESTEEM AND RELATIONSHIPS..

DOES YOUR PARTNER SAY POSITIVE OR NEGATIVE THINGS TO YOU OFTEN? MAKING YOUR PARTNER FEEL GOOD ABOUT THEMSELVES AND WHO THEY ARE, EVERYTHING ABOUT THEM, IS A MAJOR PART OF BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP. IF YOUR MAN REALLY LOVES YOU AND CHERISHES YOU, HE’S GOING TO BE MAKING YOU FEEL IT. HE’S GOING TO DO AND SAY THINGS TO SHOW YOU HOW MUCH HE APPRECIATES AND LOVES YOU. SAME GOES FOR WOMEN. IF YOUR PARTNER SAYS NEGATIVE THINGS TO YOU A LOT OF TIMES, THINGS THAT CAN TARNISH YOUR SELF CONFIDENCE AND ESTEEM, YOU MIGHT WANT TO RETHINK THAT RELATIONSHIP. SOME PEOPLE HAVE BEEN THROUGH THIS, THEY THINK HE/ SHE LOVES THEM SIMPLY BECAUSE THAT PERSON IS WITH THEM. BUT JUST BECAUSE SOMEONE IS WITH YOU DON’T MEAN THEY REALLY APPRECIATE AND CHERISHES YOU. TRUE LOVE IS EVERYTHING GOOD. GOOD WORDS, GOOD ACTIONS ETC….. MEN CAN EXPERIENCE THIS FROM THEIR FEMALE PARTNER AS WELL. BUT EITHER WAY. I WOULD JUST LEAVE THAT PERSON.

KNOW THAT IT’S REAL..

SOMEONE CAN TELL YOU ALL DAY THAT THEY LOVE YOU,  IF YOUR PARTNER TELLS YOU HE OR SHE LOVES YOU BUT DON’T REALLY DO ANYTHING TO SHOW IT, THAT MAY NOT BE LOVE. BECAUSE BELIEVE IT OR NOT, SOMEONE PEOPLE ONLY GET WITH SOMEONE ONLY BECAUSE THEY LOOK GOOD. IT HAPPENS A LOT. DON’T ONLY TRUST WHAT YOUR PARTNER SAYS, PAY ATTENTION TO THINGS, DO THEY DO THINGS THAT SHOWS THEY ARE TELLING THE TRUTH WHEN THEY SAY THEY LOVE YOU? DON’T BE NAIVE WHEN IT COMES TO RELATIONSHIPS. MAKE SURE THAT PERSON REALLY TRULY LOVES YOU FOR YOU. MAKE SURE THEY APPRECIATE YOU FOR YOU. IT’S EASY TO BE BLINDED BY FAKE LOVE. KNOW THE DIFFERENCE, THE HAPPIER YOU WILL BE. REAL LOVE IS AN AMAZING EXPERIENCE. MAKE SURE YOU ARE EXPERIENCING IT. TONS OF PEOPLE ARE IN RELATIONSHIPS THEY THINK IT’S REAL LOVE BUT SADLY, IT’S NOT.

FIND OUT AFTER THE FIRST DATE..

SOMETIMES, YOU MAY NOT BE SURE HOW A PERSON FEEL ABOUT YOU AFTER A DATE WITH THEM FOR THE FIRST TIME.  PEOPLE CAN SAY ANYTHING. BUT ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER. SO HERE’S THE BEST WAY TO REALLY FIND OUT. STOP TALKING TO THEM FOR AWHILE AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS. IF THEY CONTACT YOU AGAIN FIRST THEN OBVIOUSLY THEY WAS TELLING THE TRUTH. LETS SAY YOU WENT ON A DATE WITH SOMEONE AND YOUR NOT SURE IF THEY REALLY LIKED YOU. BUT YOU REALLY LIKED THEM. DON’T CONTACT THEM AFTERWARDS, WAIT AND SEE IF THEY CONTACT YOU AGAIN. NOW I KNOW THE URGE TO CONTACT THEM MAY BE IRRESISTIBLE, BUT YOU ALSO WANT TO MAKE SURE THEY REALLY LIKE YOU TO. IF YOU CONTACT THEM FIRST YOU REALLY WON’T BE ABLE TO TELL. IT’S REALLY THAT SIMPLE. OR, ANOTHER WAY TO KNOW IS IF THEY ACTUALLY ASK FOR  A SECOND DATE SOME  PEOPLE MIGHT PRETEND TO LIKE YOU BECAUSE THEY DON’T WANT TO HURT YOU. MOST PEOPLE DON’T WANT TO HURT YOUR FEELINGS IN PERSON, SO THEY WILL DO IT WHEN THEY LEAVE. BECAUSE THAT WAY TENDS TO BE EASIER THAN TO TELL YOU THE TRUTH TO YOUR FACE.  BUT I’D RATHER BE HURT THAN TO FIND OUT THIS PERSON WAS LYING ABOUT HOW THEY FELT. IF SOMEONE LIKES YOU THEY ARE GOING TO REACH OUT, IF NOT THEN THAT’S ALSO A MESSAGE.

JUST BE YOU..

DON’T TRY TO BE PERFECT FOR ANYONE, NOT EVEN YOUR PARTNER. WE ALL HAVE FLAWS, WE ALL MAKE MISTAKES. SOME PEOPLE CHANGE HOW THEY DO CERTAIN THINGS WHEN THEY GET WITH SOMEONE. EITHER THAT PERSON ACCEPTS EVERYTHING ABOUT YOU OR DON’T ACCEPT YOU AT ALL. IF SOMEONE TRULY LOVE YOU THEY WILL ACCEPT EVERYTHING ABOUT YOU. THEY WOULD NOT ASK OR EXPECT YOU TO CHANGE ANYTHING. IF IT’S CHANGING SOMETHING NEGATIVE THEN YEA IT WOULD BE A GOOD IDEA TO. BUT AS FAR AS POSITIVE THINGS, JUST BE YOU. CHANGE SOMETHING ONLY IF YOU WANT TO CHANGE IT. THAT’S JUST MY OPINION. DO WHAT YOU ARE COMFORTABLE DOING AND MAKES YOU HAPPY.smiley-2979107_960_720

LOVE AND LUST AT FIRST SIGHT…

DO YOU BELIEVE IN LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT? LUST AT FIRST SIGHT? HONESTLY, I BELIEVE IN BOTH. I BELIEVE YOU CAN FALL IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE AT THE FIRST SIGHT OF THEM. I HAVE PERSONALLY EXPERIENCED IT. THAT FEELING WHERE YOU JUST WANT TO BE WITH SOMEONE, DO WHAT YOU CAN TO MAKE THEM HAPPY. SHARE THINGS TOGETHER. MOST PEOPLE WOULD SAY IT’S LUST AT FIRST SIGHT. SOME PEOPLE JUST DON’T BELIEVE IN LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT. I THINK BOTH ARE VERY MUCH REAL AND YOU CAN EXPERIENCE BOTH. HAVE YOU EVER MET SOMEONE YOU JUST WANTED TO BE AROUND ALL THE TIME. EVEN THE THOUGHT OF BEING AROUND THEM EXCITED YOU. EVEN IF  YOU DON’T REALLY KNOW THEM WELL. THEM EVEN LOOKING AT YOU OR YOU LOOKING AT THEM JUST INVOKED  THOSE FEELINGS.YOU WANT TO MAKE AND SEE THEM HAPPY. YOU CANT STOP THINKING ABOUT THEM. YOU MAY HAVE JUST EXPERIENCED LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT. IF IT’S LUST AT FIRST SIGHT YOU WILL KNOW THAT TOO. YOU ONLY WANT INTIMATE RELATIONS WITH THEM AND THAT’S REALLY ABOUT IT. EVERYONE HAVE OR WILL EXPERIENCE BOTH AT SOME POINT. pexels-photo-1872762