SINGLES ON VALENTINES..

IF YOUR SINGLE AND DON’T HAVE  A DATE ON VALENTINES, JUST SIMPLY LIGHT UP SOME CANDLES, DIM THE LIGHTS, PUT ON A BEAUTIFUL PIECE OF MUSIC AND SIMPLY ENJOY A NICE CANDLE LIGHT DINNER BY YOURSELF. THERE’S NOTHING WRONG WITH TREATING YOURSELF.

GETTING OUT OF A DATE..

IF YOUR ON A DATE WITH SOMEONE YOU MET ONLINE OR WAS SET UP TO GO ON A BLIND DATE AND YOUR NOT ENJOYING THE DATE OR THE PERSON? BUT YOU DON’T WANT TO BE RUDE? HERE’S WHAT YOU CAN DO: GOT TO THE RESTROOM, CALL A FRIEND OR FAMILY MEMBER, TELL THEM TO CALL BACK IN 5 OR 10 MINS. GO BACK OUT, WAIT FOR THE CALL. WHEN THEY CALL PRETEND YOU HAVE TO GO DUE TO AN EMERGENCY. THAT’S A CLEVER WAY OF GETTING OUT OF A DATE.

MORE THAN ONE..

WHEN MORE THAN ONE PERSON WANTS TO DATE YOU AT ONCE. YOU KNOW YOU HAVE TO CHOOSE BUT THE DECISION CAN BE DIFFICULT, ESPECIALLY IF YOU HAVE FEELINGS YOUR ALL OF THEM. WE SOMETIMES CAN HURT PEOPLE UNINTENTIONALLY. BUT THIS DOESN’T MAKE YOU A BAD PERSON. THIS CAN ALSO HURT YOU JUST AS MUCH. YOU CANT HELP WHO YOU LOVE AND YOU ALSO CANT HELP WHO FALLS FOR YOU. SO DON’T GO BEATING YOURSELF UP OVER IT. YOU CAN’T ALWAYS MAKE EVERYONE HAPPY. IT’S IMPOSSIBLE.

UNWILLINGNESS TO LISTEN..

THE FIRST IS THE PRACTICE OF EMPATHETIC LISTENING, AIMED AT UNDERSTANDING THE INTERLOCUTOR; THE SECOND IS THE CRYSTALLIZATION OF THOUGHT, AIMED AT THE TASK OF BEING UNDERSTOOD. IDEALLY, CONSCIOUSLY LISTENING, UNDERSTANDS THE  INTERLOCLUTAR, AND CONSCIOUSLY SPEAKING, CONVEY OUR OWN THOUGHTS IN A REFINED AND CLEAR FORM.
BOTH QUALITIES ARE EQUALLY IMPORTANT, BUT  THE FACT IS THAT NO ONE WANTS TO UNDERSTAND, EVERYONE WANTS TO BE UNDERSTOOD. EVEN IN THE COMMENTS ON THE AFOREMENTIONED ARTICLE, ALMOST EVERYONE SPOKE  AND ASKED QUESTIONS IN  THE FIRST PART OF THE TEXT, WHICH WAS DEVOTED TO THE CLEAR EXPRESSION OF THOUGHTS. THAT IS MOST  OF US WANT TO NOT ONLY BE SMART, UNDERSTANDING  OUR INTERLOCUTOR, BUT TO LOOK LIKE THAT, EXPRESSION OUR THOUGHTS BEAUTIFULLY AND EFFECTIVELY.

RECOGNIZE A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP..

EVERYONE HAS THEIR VISION OF THE RELATIONSHIP. HOWEVER, THERE ARE SOME FUNDAMENTALS TO DESCRIBE A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP. IF YOU RECOGNIZE YOURSELF THERE IS A GOOD CHANCE THAT THE RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR OTHER HALF WILL BE HEALTHY. TO BE IN A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP IS TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP THAT IS GOOD FOR YOU. THAT MAKES YOU HAPPY. THERE CAN OF COURSE BE ANNOYANCES NUT THESE MUST NOT EXCEED THE JOY, WELL BEING AND HAPPINESS OF BEING TWO. SHARING A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP IS ALSO ABOUT FEELING SAFE. TO TRUST THE OTHER PERSON AND HIS/HER LOVE. WHETHER YOUR COUPLE IS A FUSIONIST OR MORE INDEPENDENT. YOU LIVE TOGETHER AND YOU DEVELOP A RELATIONSHIP FROM A DISTANCE, YOU NEED TO FEEL SAFE. IF YOU FEEL BAD, JEALOUS OR GUILTY REGULARLY, THERE IS A WORRY. IT’S UP TO YOU TO DETERMINE IF IT COMES FROM YOU- COMPLICATED  LOVE, DIFFICULTIES TO TRUST-OR YOUR PARTNER-NOT REASSURING BEHAVIOR… ANYWAY OR WHATEVER THE REASONS, THE BEST IS STILL TO SPEAK ABOUT IT WITH YOUR PARTNER TO CLEAN UP THE RELATIONSHIP. NO QUESTION OF TALKING ABOUT LIBERTINAGE; FEELING FREE IN A RELATIONSHIP MEANS HAVING THE CHOICE TO BE WHO YOU ARE. TO HAVE THE POWER TO STAY YOURSELF. IF YOUR IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP YOU MIGHT FEEL COMPELLED TO CHANGE YOUR PERSONALITY TO DESERVE EACH OTHER’S LOVE.

WONDERS AND REGRETS..

HAVE YOU EVER MEET SOMEONE THAT WAS INTO YOU? BUT YOU WASN’T REALLY INTO THEM. BUT YOU DIDN’T TELL THEM, EVENTUALLY THEY PRETTY MUCH GOT THE PICTURE? THE PERSON TOLD YOU HOW HE/SHE FELT AND STOPPED CONTACTING YOU? I WAS TALKING TO A GUY A MONTH OR TWO AGO. HE REALLY LIKED ME BUT I JUST DIDN’T FEEL THE SAME WAY. HE EVENTUALLY KNEW THAT’S WHAT IT WAS. HE SAID HIS PEACE AND STOP CONTACTING ME. BUT NOW, I’M KIND OF REGRETTING NOT GIVING HIM A CHANCE. I’VE BEEN THINKING ABOUT CONTACTING HIM AGAIN. HAVE YOU EVER HAD THE SAME EXPERIENCE WITH SOMEONE? WHAT DID YOU DO? DID YOU LATER REGRET NOT GIVING THAT PERSON  A CHANCE AND CONTACTED THEM AGAIN OR THOUGHT ABOUT IT?

LONGED FOR..

 

HE LONGED TO BE IN HER PRESENCE JUST AS MUCH AS SHE LONGED TO BE IN HIS.

 

HE LONGED TO BE BY HER SIDE JUST AS MUCH AS SHE LONGED TO BE BY HIS.

 

HE LONGED TO BE HOLDING HER AT NIGHT JUST AS MUCH AS SHE LONGED TO HOLD HIM.

 

HE LONGED TO BE CLOSE TO HER AS MUCH AS MUCH AS SHE LONGED TO BE CLOSE TO HIM.

 

THEY LONGED FOR ONE ANOTHER, BUT THEY WAS SO FAR APART. MOST OF THE TIME THEY JUST WONDERED, IF THEY WOULD EVER BE TOGETHER.