HOW TO RESPECTFULLY BREAKUP..

PEOPLE TEND TO ASK THE QUESTION, WHATS A GOOD WAY TO BREAKUP WITH SOMEONE OR HOW DO I TELL MY PARTNER I WANT TO BREAK UP. WELL, THERE IS A RIGHT AND A WRONG WAY TO BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE. (IN MY OPINION.) MAKE SURE YOU TWO ARE SOMEWHERE ALONE, SIT HIM/HER DOWN AND TELL THEM IN THE NICEST WAY POSSIBLE. DON’T KNOW THE RIGHT WORDS TO SAY? HERE’S A FEW:

  1. THIS RELATIONSHIP ISN’T WORKING.
  2. I’M READY TO BE SINGLE.
  3. I DON’T WANT TO BE WITH YOU ANYMORE.
  4. I THINK IT’S TIME WE PART WAYS.
  5. I DON’T WANT TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP ANYMORE OR RIGHT NOW.

PROS AND CONS OF BLIND DATING..

THE FUN THING ABOUT GOING ON A BLIND DATE IS:

  1. YOUR GOING ON A DATE.
  2. YOUR CURIOUS WHO THIS MYSTERY PERSON IS.
  3. IT’S YOUR CHANCE TO MEET SOMEONE NEW.
  4. THIS COULD BE YOUR DREAM PERSON.

THE SCARY PART IS:

  1. YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT THE PERSON IS LIKE.
  2. WHAT TO EXPECT.
  3. YOUR ON A DATE WITH A TOTAL STRANGER.

ADMITTING WRONGS..

BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE WHO DON’T ADMIT THEIR WRONGS MAY NOT BE A GOOD THING. A REAL MAN/WOMAN IS GOING TO ADMIT WHEN THEY’RE WRONG. EVERYONE KNOWS WRONG FROM RIGHT. SOME PEOPLE WILL DO YOU WRONG AND HURT YOU, AND YET IT’S LIKE THEY DON’T SEE IT. THIS CAN BE REALLY ANNOYING AND FRUSTRATING. ANYONE THAT CAN’T ADMIT THEIR WRONGS CLEARLY HAVE ISSUES THAT THEY NEED TO WORK ON. WE SOMETIMES HURT OUR PARTNER INTENTIONALLY AND UNINTENTIONALLY. YOU MAY PURPOSELY HURT YOUR PARTNER DUE TO SOMETHING THEY DID. BUT TWO WRONGS DON’T MAKE A RIGHT. NO ONE IS PERFECT. BUT YOU CAN RIGHT YOUR WRONG BY ADMITTING YOU WAS WRONG IN THE FIRST PLACE. TELL THEM HOW IT MADE YOU FEEL WHEN YOU SAW HIM/HER DO OR SAY WHATEVER IT WAS YOU DIDN’T LIKE. WAIT FOR AN APOLOGY, IF HE/SHE DON’T APOLOGIZE, YOU MAY WANT TO START RETHINKING YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH THAT INDIVIDUAL.

A LOVE STORY INSPIRED BY TRUE EVENTS..

A RELATIONSHIP OF  LOVE, RESPECT, AND UNDERSTANDING, A LOVE STORY THAT HAS NO INCEPTION BUT AN ENDING OF SHATTERED DREAMS. IT WAS CERTAINLY NOT A MAINSTREAM RELATIONSHIP WITH RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS, CONFLICTS OR ARGUMENTS, THERE WAS HARMONY AND APPRECIATION IN EVERY  STEP OF TOGETHERNESS. THE WORLD BELIEVED SOMETHING MORE THAN JUST A COMPANY OR FRIENDSHIP BUT IT WAS NOT IN SHADOWS OF THE DOUBTS FOR THE COUPLE. THE BOY WAS RECKLESS AT TIMES BUT HAS A GOOD HEART AND IS GENTLE BY NATURE WHEREAS, THE GIRL WAS GOING THROUGH A BREAK-UP AS HER RELATIONSHIP IS NOT GOING WELL AND COUNTERING BUMPS IN THE ROAD.TWO ABSOLUTE STRANGERS FOR A STARTER, FOR LOVE TO SPARK, THERE HAS TO BE SOMETHING COMMON, IN THERE CASE THEY HAVE MUTUAL FRIEND, HE IS THE CHILDHOOD FRIEND OF THE BOY AND STUDIES IN THE SAME CLASS WITH THE GIRL. CALLING HIM A CUPID WON’T BE AN UNDERSTATEMENT, HOWEVER, HE ARRANGES A MEETING AT A SOCIAL EVENT BUT THE GIRL DOES NOT SHOW UP BECAUSE SHE WAS ASKED OUT FOR THE LAST TIME BY HER SOON-TO-BE-EX-BOYFRIEND.THE BOY AND HIS FRIEND ENJOY THEIR TIME AND LEAVE. THE OTHER DAY, THE BOY RECEIVES A MESSAGE, HEY! HE KNEW THAT IT WAS THE GIRL’S NUMBER IMMEDIATELY, THERE WAS A CONNECTION I GUESS,THEN THEY TEXTED BACK AND FORTH TILL THE NIGHT GOT DARKER AND STARS GOT BRIGHTER. AS TIME PASSED BY THEY BOTH FEEL COMFORTABLE AND ENJOYED EACH OTHER’S HUMOR, SHARE THEIR OPINIONS, DID DISCUSSIONS, AND MADE UNSUCCESSFUL PLANS OF MEETING. THEIR FRIENDS’ CIRCLE ALREADY KNOWS THERE IS SOMETHING FISHY BETWEEN THEM BUT THE BOY AND GIRL NEVER ADMIT NOR HAD ANY INTENTIONS.UNPRECEDENTEDLY, THEY MEET AFTER A MONTH OF TEXTING AT A RESTAURANT. IT IS ONE OF THE BEST DAYS BOTH HAD, THEY TALKED, LAUGHED, AND HAD FUN UNTIL THERE WAYS APART. THEY START TO MEET REGULARLY AND MAYBE STARTED TO FEEL FOR EACH OTHER.THEY TAKE LONG WALKS WITHOUT HOLDING HANDS( VERY UNROMANTIC THOUGH) CALL EACH OTHER FOR HOURS, SHARE SIMILAR THOUGHTS ON MANY THINGS ANS POSSESS DIFFERENT OPINIONS AS WELL. THE UNLIKELINESS IS SO ON-POINT THAT THEY NEVER FACE RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS.REMEMBER THAT’S MUTUAL FRIEND? HE CONFRONTS THE BOY AND ASKS ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP AND IN REPLY THE BOY SAYS, I DO NOT MAN, SHE IS PRETTY AND I DON’T KNOW SHE THINKS THE SAME OR SHE EVEN LIKES ME. THE FRIEND ASKS THE SAME THING FROM THE GIRL AND SHE REPLIES, HE HAS NOT APPROACHED ME YET AND I DON’T THINK IF HE LIKES ME IN THAT WAY, ALTHOUGH HE IS CUTE AND ALL BUT I DON’T KNOW UNCERTAINTY IN A RELATIONSHIP IS THE FIRST STEP BUT IT WAS THE LAST IN THIS ONE. ONE DAY SHE GETS A MARRIAGE PROPOSAL AND HER PARENTS ACCEPTED IT AND SURPRISINGLY SHE INDULGES HERSELF IN THAT RELATIONSHIP. THE BOY GOT THE NEWS FROM HIS FRIEND, HE GOT CONFUSED, A BIT HEARTBROKEN AND FELT DISAPPROVED BUT WISHED HER LUCK AND PRAYED FOR THE BEST AND NEVER CONTACTED HER AGAIN

CHOOSE YOUR PARTNER WISELY..

BE WITH SOMEONE THAT NOT ONLY TELLS YOU HOW MUCH THEY ADORE YOU BUT ALSO SHOW YOU. MAKE SURE THEY DO WHAT THEY CAN TO KEEP A SMILE ON YOUR FACE. THEY TELL YOU THEY WANT TO DO EVERYTHING WITH YOU. THAT’S THE PARTNER TO HAVE. BE WISE ENOUGH TO KNOW WHEN YOUR BEING PLAYED. BE STRONG ENOUGH TO MOVE ON.

ROMANTICISM..

I WANT THE KIND OR RELATIONSHIP THAT MAKES ME FEEL LIKE I’M LIVING IN A DREAM/FANTASY WORLD. TO EXPERIENCE ROMANTICISM  OVER AND OVER AGAIN. A BEAUTIFUL RELATIONSHIP IS MAKING YOUR PARTNER FEEL LIKE EVERYDAY IS VALENTINES DAY. EVERYDAY IS HIS/HER DAY. I’M SURE EVERYONE WANTS THIS KIND OF RELATIONSHIP. ROMANTICISM IS EVERYTHING IN A RELATIONSHIP. I MAKES THE RELATIONSHIP STRONGER AND LAST LONGER, OTHER THAN COMMUNICATION AND SEX.romantic-744760_960_720

SINGLES ON VALENTINES..

IF YOUR SINGLE AND DON’T HAVE  A DATE ON VALENTINES, JUST SIMPLY LIGHT UP SOME CANDLES, DIM THE LIGHTS, PUT ON A BEAUTIFUL PIECE OF MUSIC AND SIMPLY ENJOY A NICE CANDLE LIGHT DINNER BY YOURSELF. THERE’S NOTHING WRONG WITH TREATING YOURSELF.

SUPERFICIAL WEAKNESS..

pair-2204977_960_720WOULD YOU DATE SOMEONE WHO TOLD YOU THEIR WEAKNESS IS BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE? LETS SAY YOU MET A WOMAN, SHE TELLS YOU HER WEAKNESS IS VERY HANDSOME MEN? OR YOUR A WOMAN AND YOU MET A GUY AND HE TELLS YOU HIS WEAKNESS IS BEAUTIFUL WOMEN? LETS SAY YOUR IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE LIKE THIS, WHETHER ITS A GUY OR A WOMAN. YOU PRETTY MUCH HAVE TO WONDER, CAN HE/SHE BE TRUSTED AROUND OTHER BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE? THIS IS THE MAIN REASON WHY YOU SHOULD NOT ONLY DATE SOMEONE BASED ON HOW THEY LOOK. AND WHAT A RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT SOLID TRUST?  NOW YOU MAY BE IN LOVE WITH THIS PERSON, BUT THE QUESTION STILL REMAINS, CAN THEY BE TRUSTED AROUND OTHER HIGHLY ATTRACTIVE PEOPLE? JUST SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT.

 

 

GETTING OUT OF A DATE..

IF YOUR ON A DATE WITH SOMEONE YOU MET ONLINE OR WAS SET UP TO GO ON A BLIND DATE AND YOUR NOT ENJOYING THE DATE OR THE PERSON? BUT YOU DON’T WANT TO BE RUDE? HERE’S WHAT YOU CAN DO: GOT TO THE RESTROOM, CALL A FRIEND OR FAMILY MEMBER, TELL THEM TO CALL BACK IN 5 OR 10 MINS. GO BACK OUT, WAIT FOR THE CALL. WHEN THEY CALL PRETEND YOU HAVE TO GO DUE TO AN EMERGENCY. THAT’S A CLEVER WAY OF GETTING OUT OF A DATE.

MORE THAN ONE..

WHEN MORE THAN ONE PERSON WANTS TO DATE YOU AT ONCE. YOU KNOW YOU HAVE TO CHOOSE BUT THE DECISION CAN BE DIFFICULT, ESPECIALLY IF YOU HAVE FEELINGS YOUR ALL OF THEM. WE SOMETIMES CAN HURT PEOPLE UNINTENTIONALLY. BUT THIS DOESN’T MAKE YOU A BAD PERSON. THIS CAN ALSO HURT YOU JUST AS MUCH. YOU CANT HELP WHO YOU LOVE AND YOU ALSO CANT HELP WHO FALLS FOR YOU. SO DON’T GO BEATING YOURSELF UP OVER IT. YOU CAN’T ALWAYS MAKE EVERYONE HAPPY. IT’S IMPOSSIBLE.

A GREAT DATE..

A GREAT DATE/RELATIONSHIP GOALS

 

  1. CANDLE LIGHT DINNER ON THE BEACH?
  2. THEME PARK?
  3. WATCH A MOVIE AT THE THEATER?
  4. ROCK CLIMBING
  5. BUNGEE JUMPING?
  6. GOING ON A PARACHUTE?
  7. GOING ON A SAFARI?
  8. DINNER AT A EXPENSIVE RESTAURANT?
  9. SOMETHING ELSE?

 

 

ONE SIDED..

IF YOUR ALWAYS THE ONE THAT’S DOING THE KISSING AND HUGGING. IF YOUR ALWAYS THE ONE COMING UP WITH ROMANTIC IDEAS AND THINGS TO DO. YOU ALWAYS FIND YOURSELF DOING EVERYTHING, YEA, YOU MAY BE IN A ONE SIDED RELATIONSHIP.

UNWILLINGNESS TO LISTEN..

THE FIRST IS THE PRACTICE OF EMPATHETIC LISTENING, AIMED AT UNDERSTANDING THE INTERLOCUTOR; THE SECOND IS THE CRYSTALLIZATION OF THOUGHT, AIMED AT THE TASK OF BEING UNDERSTOOD. IDEALLY, CONSCIOUSLY LISTENING, UNDERSTANDS THE  INTERLOCLUTAR, AND CONSCIOUSLY SPEAKING, CONVEY OUR OWN THOUGHTS IN A REFINED AND CLEAR FORM.
BOTH QUALITIES ARE EQUALLY IMPORTANT, BUT  THE FACT IS THAT NO ONE WANTS TO UNDERSTAND, EVERYONE WANTS TO BE UNDERSTOOD. EVEN IN THE COMMENTS ON THE AFOREMENTIONED ARTICLE, ALMOST EVERYONE SPOKE  AND ASKED QUESTIONS IN  THE FIRST PART OF THE TEXT, WHICH WAS DEVOTED TO THE CLEAR EXPRESSION OF THOUGHTS. THAT IS MOST  OF US WANT TO NOT ONLY BE SMART, UNDERSTANDING  OUR INTERLOCUTOR, BUT TO LOOK LIKE THAT, EXPRESSION OUR THOUGHTS BEAUTIFULLY AND EFFECTIVELY.

SPEAK OUT..

UNDERSTANDING THE OTHER PERSON AND NOT ASKING HIM/HER TO CHANGE DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOU SHOULD NOT SPEAK ABOUT THINGS THAT HURT OR YOU WOULD LIKE TO DO OR HEAR. YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO HAVE DESIRES FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIP AND IT IS ESSENTIAL TO KNOW HOW TO EXPRESS THEM TO YOUR PARTNER- WITHOUT BLAMING HIM/HER. YOU CANT BLAME YOUR PARTNER FOR NOT UNDERSTANDING SOMETHING YOU DID NOT TELL HIM/HER. THAT’S WHAT I FIND MOST DIFFICULT TO DO IN MY RELATIONSHIP. HAVING TROUBLE ASSERTING ON WHAT I WANT, WHAT I LIKE AND WHAT I DON’T WANT. I WOULD LIKE MY COMPANION TO GUESS MY THOUGHTS AND DESIRES WITHOUT ME EXPRESSING THEM. EXCEPT THAT’S NOT POSSIBLE AND THAT IS WRONG SOMETIMES. RATHER THAN BLAME THAT PERSON I LEARN TO BETTER ARTICULATE WHAT I WANT.