PROS AND CONS OF BLIND DATING..

THE FUN THING ABOUT GOING ON A BLIND DATE IS:

  1. YOUR GOING ON A DATE.
  2. YOUR CURIOUS WHO THIS MYSTERY PERSON IS.
  3. IT’S YOUR CHANCE TO MEET SOMEONE NEW.
  4. THIS COULD BE YOUR DREAM PERSON.

THE SCARY PART IS:

  1. YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT THE PERSON IS LIKE.
  2. WHAT TO EXPECT.
  3. YOUR ON A DATE WITH A TOTAL STRANGER.

IT’S NEVER OK..

SO IS IT THAT SOME PEOPLE THINK JUST BECAUSE THEY ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE OR EVEN A MARRIAGE, THAT THAT PERSON HAVE THE RIGHT TO PUT THEIR HANDS ON THEM ANY KIND OF WAY? I OFTEN WONDER ABOUT THIS. DO YOU THINK THIS MAY BE WHY THEY DON’T DEFEND THEMSELVES? WELL NEWS FLASH, NO ONE AND I MEAN NO ONE HAVE THAT  RIGHT TO DO HARM TO YOU. IT IS NEVER OK AND YOU DON’T HAVE TO PUT UP WITH IT.  YOU NEVER HAVE TO BE SOMEONE’S PUNCHING BAG. YOU ALWAYS DESERVE BETTER WHETHER YOU BELIEVE YOU DO OR NOT. I DECIDED TO WRITE THIS BECAUSE MAYBE IT COULD GET THROUGH TO SOMEONE THAT NEEDS TO SEE IT.

A LOVE STORY INSPIRED BY TRUE EVENTS..

A RELATIONSHIP OF  LOVE, RESPECT, AND UNDERSTANDING, A LOVE STORY THAT HAS NO INCEPTION BUT AN ENDING OF SHATTERED DREAMS. IT WAS CERTAINLY NOT A MAINSTREAM RELATIONSHIP WITH RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS, CONFLICTS OR ARGUMENTS, THERE WAS HARMONY AND APPRECIATION IN EVERY  STEP OF TOGETHERNESS. THE WORLD BELIEVED SOMETHING MORE THAN JUST A COMPANY OR FRIENDSHIP BUT IT WAS NOT IN SHADOWS OF THE DOUBTS FOR THE COUPLE. THE BOY WAS RECKLESS AT TIMES BUT HAS A GOOD HEART AND IS GENTLE BY NATURE WHEREAS, THE GIRL WAS GOING THROUGH A BREAK-UP AS HER RELATIONSHIP IS NOT GOING WELL AND COUNTERING BUMPS IN THE ROAD.TWO ABSOLUTE STRANGERS FOR A STARTER, FOR LOVE TO SPARK, THERE HAS TO BE SOMETHING COMMON, IN THERE CASE THEY HAVE MUTUAL FRIEND, HE IS THE CHILDHOOD FRIEND OF THE BOY AND STUDIES IN THE SAME CLASS WITH THE GIRL. CALLING HIM A CUPID WON’T BE AN UNDERSTATEMENT, HOWEVER, HE ARRANGES A MEETING AT A SOCIAL EVENT BUT THE GIRL DOES NOT SHOW UP BECAUSE SHE WAS ASKED OUT FOR THE LAST TIME BY HER SOON-TO-BE-EX-BOYFRIEND.THE BOY AND HIS FRIEND ENJOY THEIR TIME AND LEAVE. THE OTHER DAY, THE BOY RECEIVES A MESSAGE, HEY! HE KNEW THAT IT WAS THE GIRL’S NUMBER IMMEDIATELY, THERE WAS A CONNECTION I GUESS,THEN THEY TEXTED BACK AND FORTH TILL THE NIGHT GOT DARKER AND STARS GOT BRIGHTER. AS TIME PASSED BY THEY BOTH FEEL COMFORTABLE AND ENJOYED EACH OTHER’S HUMOR, SHARE THEIR OPINIONS, DID DISCUSSIONS, AND MADE UNSUCCESSFUL PLANS OF MEETING. THEIR FRIENDS’ CIRCLE ALREADY KNOWS THERE IS SOMETHING FISHY BETWEEN THEM BUT THE BOY AND GIRL NEVER ADMIT NOR HAD ANY INTENTIONS.UNPRECEDENTEDLY, THEY MEET AFTER A MONTH OF TEXTING AT A RESTAURANT. IT IS ONE OF THE BEST DAYS BOTH HAD, THEY TALKED, LAUGHED, AND HAD FUN UNTIL THERE WAYS APART. THEY START TO MEET REGULARLY AND MAYBE STARTED TO FEEL FOR EACH OTHER.THEY TAKE LONG WALKS WITHOUT HOLDING HANDS( VERY UNROMANTIC THOUGH) CALL EACH OTHER FOR HOURS, SHARE SIMILAR THOUGHTS ON MANY THINGS ANS POSSESS DIFFERENT OPINIONS AS WELL. THE UNLIKELINESS IS SO ON-POINT THAT THEY NEVER FACE RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS.REMEMBER THAT’S MUTUAL FRIEND? HE CONFRONTS THE BOY AND ASKS ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP AND IN REPLY THE BOY SAYS, I DO NOT MAN, SHE IS PRETTY AND I DON’T KNOW SHE THINKS THE SAME OR SHE EVEN LIKES ME. THE FRIEND ASKS THE SAME THING FROM THE GIRL AND SHE REPLIES, HE HAS NOT APPROACHED ME YET AND I DON’T THINK IF HE LIKES ME IN THAT WAY, ALTHOUGH HE IS CUTE AND ALL BUT I DON’T KNOW UNCERTAINTY IN A RELATIONSHIP IS THE FIRST STEP BUT IT WAS THE LAST IN THIS ONE. ONE DAY SHE GETS A MARRIAGE PROPOSAL AND HER PARENTS ACCEPTED IT AND SURPRISINGLY SHE INDULGES HERSELF IN THAT RELATIONSHIP. THE BOY GOT THE NEWS FROM HIS FRIEND, HE GOT CONFUSED, A BIT HEARTBROKEN AND FELT DISAPPROVED BUT WISHED HER LUCK AND PRAYED FOR THE BEST AND NEVER CONTACTED HER AGAIN

ROMANTICISM..

I WANT THE KIND OR RELATIONSHIP THAT MAKES ME FEEL LIKE I’M LIVING IN A DREAM/FANTASY WORLD. TO EXPERIENCE ROMANTICISM  OVER AND OVER AGAIN. A BEAUTIFUL RELATIONSHIP IS MAKING YOUR PARTNER FEEL LIKE EVERYDAY IS VALENTINES DAY. EVERYDAY IS HIS/HER DAY. I’M SURE EVERYONE WANTS THIS KIND OF RELATIONSHIP. ROMANTICISM IS EVERYTHING IN A RELATIONSHIP. I MAKES THE RELATIONSHIP STRONGER AND LAST LONGER, OTHER THAN COMMUNICATION AND SEX.romantic-744760_960_720

SINGLES ON VALENTINES..

IF YOUR SINGLE AND DON’T HAVE  A DATE ON VALENTINES, JUST SIMPLY LIGHT UP SOME CANDLES, DIM THE LIGHTS, PUT ON A BEAUTIFUL PIECE OF MUSIC AND SIMPLY ENJOY A NICE CANDLE LIGHT DINNER BY YOURSELF. THERE’S NOTHING WRONG WITH TREATING YOURSELF.

SUPERFICIAL WEAKNESS..

pair-2204977_960_720WOULD YOU DATE SOMEONE WHO TOLD YOU THEIR WEAKNESS IS BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE? LETS SAY YOU MET A WOMAN, SHE TELLS YOU HER WEAKNESS IS VERY HANDSOME MEN? OR YOUR A WOMAN AND YOU MET A GUY AND HE TELLS YOU HIS WEAKNESS IS BEAUTIFUL WOMEN? LETS SAY YOUR IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE LIKE THIS, WHETHER ITS A GUY OR A WOMAN. YOU PRETTY MUCH HAVE TO WONDER, CAN HE/SHE BE TRUSTED AROUND OTHER BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE? THIS IS THE MAIN REASON WHY YOU SHOULD NOT ONLY DATE SOMEONE BASED ON HOW THEY LOOK. AND WHAT A RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT SOLID TRUST?  NOW YOU MAY BE IN LOVE WITH THIS PERSON, BUT THE QUESTION STILL REMAINS, CAN THEY BE TRUSTED AROUND OTHER HIGHLY ATTRACTIVE PEOPLE? JUST SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT.

 

 

MORE THAN ONE..

WHEN MORE THAN ONE PERSON WANTS TO DATE YOU AT ONCE. YOU KNOW YOU HAVE TO CHOOSE BUT THE DECISION CAN BE DIFFICULT, ESPECIALLY IF YOU HAVE FEELINGS YOUR ALL OF THEM. WE SOMETIMES CAN HURT PEOPLE UNINTENTIONALLY. BUT THIS DOESN’T MAKE YOU A BAD PERSON. THIS CAN ALSO HURT YOU JUST AS MUCH. YOU CANT HELP WHO YOU LOVE AND YOU ALSO CANT HELP WHO FALLS FOR YOU. SO DON’T GO BEATING YOURSELF UP OVER IT. YOU CAN’T ALWAYS MAKE EVERYONE HAPPY. IT’S IMPOSSIBLE.

A GREAT DATE..

A GREAT DATE/RELATIONSHIP GOALS

 

  1. CANDLE LIGHT DINNER ON THE BEACH?
  2. THEME PARK?
  3. WATCH A MOVIE AT THE THEATER?
  4. ROCK CLIMBING
  5. BUNGEE JUMPING?
  6. GOING ON A PARACHUTE?
  7. GOING ON A SAFARI?
  8. DINNER AT A EXPENSIVE RESTAURANT?
  9. SOMETHING ELSE?

 

 

ONE SIDED..

IF YOUR ALWAYS THE ONE THAT’S DOING THE KISSING AND HUGGING. IF YOUR ALWAYS THE ONE COMING UP WITH ROMANTIC IDEAS AND THINGS TO DO. YOU ALWAYS FIND YOURSELF DOING EVERYTHING, YEA, YOU MAY BE IN A ONE SIDED RELATIONSHIP.

UNWILLINGNESS TO LISTEN..

THE FIRST IS THE PRACTICE OF EMPATHETIC LISTENING, AIMED AT UNDERSTANDING THE INTERLOCUTOR; THE SECOND IS THE CRYSTALLIZATION OF THOUGHT, AIMED AT THE TASK OF BEING UNDERSTOOD. IDEALLY, CONSCIOUSLY LISTENING, UNDERSTANDS THE  INTERLOCLUTAR, AND CONSCIOUSLY SPEAKING, CONVEY OUR OWN THOUGHTS IN A REFINED AND CLEAR FORM.
BOTH QUALITIES ARE EQUALLY IMPORTANT, BUT  THE FACT IS THAT NO ONE WANTS TO UNDERSTAND, EVERYONE WANTS TO BE UNDERSTOOD. EVEN IN THE COMMENTS ON THE AFOREMENTIONED ARTICLE, ALMOST EVERYONE SPOKE  AND ASKED QUESTIONS IN  THE FIRST PART OF THE TEXT, WHICH WAS DEVOTED TO THE CLEAR EXPRESSION OF THOUGHTS. THAT IS MOST  OF US WANT TO NOT ONLY BE SMART, UNDERSTANDING  OUR INTERLOCUTOR, BUT TO LOOK LIKE THAT, EXPRESSION OUR THOUGHTS BEAUTIFULLY AND EFFECTIVELY.

RECOGNIZE A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP..

EVERYONE HAS THEIR VISION OF THE RELATIONSHIP. HOWEVER, THERE ARE SOME FUNDAMENTALS TO DESCRIBE A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP. IF YOU RECOGNIZE YOURSELF THERE IS A GOOD CHANCE THAT THE RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR OTHER HALF WILL BE HEALTHY. TO BE IN A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP IS TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP THAT IS GOOD FOR YOU. THAT MAKES YOU HAPPY. THERE CAN OF COURSE BE ANNOYANCES NUT THESE MUST NOT EXCEED THE JOY, WELL BEING AND HAPPINESS OF BEING TWO. SHARING A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP IS ALSO ABOUT FEELING SAFE. TO TRUST THE OTHER PERSON AND HIS/HER LOVE. WHETHER YOUR COUPLE IS A FUSIONIST OR MORE INDEPENDENT. YOU LIVE TOGETHER AND YOU DEVELOP A RELATIONSHIP FROM A DISTANCE, YOU NEED TO FEEL SAFE. IF YOU FEEL BAD, JEALOUS OR GUILTY REGULARLY, THERE IS A WORRY. IT’S UP TO YOU TO DETERMINE IF IT COMES FROM YOU- COMPLICATED  LOVE, DIFFICULTIES TO TRUST-OR YOUR PARTNER-NOT REASSURING BEHAVIOR… ANYWAY OR WHATEVER THE REASONS, THE BEST IS STILL TO SPEAK ABOUT IT WITH YOUR PARTNER TO CLEAN UP THE RELATIONSHIP. NO QUESTION OF TALKING ABOUT LIBERTINAGE; FEELING FREE IN A RELATIONSHIP MEANS HAVING THE CHOICE TO BE WHO YOU ARE. TO HAVE THE POWER TO STAY YOURSELF. IF YOUR IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP YOU MIGHT FEEL COMPELLED TO CHANGE YOUR PERSONALITY TO DESERVE EACH OTHER’S LOVE.

WONDERS AND REGRETS..

HAVE YOU EVER MEET SOMEONE THAT WAS INTO YOU? BUT YOU WASN’T REALLY INTO THEM. BUT YOU DIDN’T TELL THEM, EVENTUALLY THEY PRETTY MUCH GOT THE PICTURE? THE PERSON TOLD YOU HOW HE/SHE FELT AND STOPPED CONTACTING YOU? I WAS TALKING TO A GUY A MONTH OR TWO AGO. HE REALLY LIKED ME BUT I JUST DIDN’T FEEL THE SAME WAY. HE EVENTUALLY KNEW THAT’S WHAT IT WAS. HE SAID HIS PEACE AND STOP CONTACTING ME. BUT NOW, I’M KIND OF REGRETTING NOT GIVING HIM A CHANCE. I’VE BEEN THINKING ABOUT CONTACTING HIM AGAIN. HAVE YOU EVER HAD THE SAME EXPERIENCE WITH SOMEONE? WHAT DID YOU DO? DID YOU LATER REGRET NOT GIVING THAT PERSON  A CHANCE AND CONTACTED THEM AGAIN OR THOUGHT ABOUT IT?

PAINFUL EXPERIENCES..

LOVE IS NOT SUPPOSE TO BE PAINFUL AT ALL.  YOU CAN LOVE SOMEONE SO MUCH BUT THEY DON’T LOVE YOU AS MUCH. YOU LOVING  THEM ISN’T PAINFUL, IT’S THE FACT THAT YOU KNOW OR SUSPECT THEY DON’T FEEL THE SAME WAY TOWARDS YOU IS WHAT’S PAINFUL. IT HURTS WHEN YOU LOVE AND WANT SOMEONE SO MUCH, BUT THEY DON’T FEEL THE SAME WAY.  SOME PEOPLE WILL SPLIT WITH SOMEONE THAT LOVE THEM WITHOUT LITTLE TO NO EXPLANATION. PEOPLE THAT HAVE HAD THESE KINDS OF EXPERIENCES WOULD PROBABLY SAY “LOVE IS PAINFUL” BUT IN ALL HONESTY, THAT’S JUST NOT TRUE. LOVE ITSELF IS A POSITIVE THING. BUT CERTAIN EXPERIENCES CAN MAKE IT SEEM OTHER WISE. BUT THEN AGAIN, THIS IS MY OPINION.  BECAUSE THEY DON’T FEEL THE SAME WAY YOU DO TOWARDS THEM. SOME PEOPLE TEND TO NOT WANT TO LOVE ANYONE ELSE AFTER THESE KINDS OF EXPERIENCES. THEY BLAME IT ON LOVE AND SAY LOVE IS PAINFUL.  BUT REALLY IT’S THE EXPERIENCE THAT CAUSED THE HURT. BUT WHAT DO YOU THINK? DOES THIS MAKE SENSE TO YOU?sss