UNWILLINGNESS TO LISTEN..

THE FIRST IS THE PRACTICE OF EMPATHETIC LISTENING, AIMED AT UNDERSTANDING THE INTERLOCUTOR; THE SECOND IS THE CRYSTALLIZATION OF THOUGHT, AIMED AT THE TASK OF BEING UNDERSTOOD. IDEALLY, CONSCIOUSLY LISTENING, UNDERSTANDS THE  INTERLOCLUTAR, AND CONSCIOUSLY SPEAKING, CONVEY OUR OWN THOUGHTS IN A REFINED AND CLEAR FORM.
BOTH QUALITIES ARE EQUALLY IMPORTANT, BUT  THE FACT IS THAT NO ONE WANTS TO UNDERSTAND, EVERYONE WANTS TO BE UNDERSTOOD. EVEN IN THE COMMENTS ON THE AFOREMENTIONED ARTICLE, ALMOST EVERYONE SPOKE  AND ASKED QUESTIONS IN  THE FIRST PART OF THE TEXT, WHICH WAS DEVOTED TO THE CLEAR EXPRESSION OF THOUGHTS. THAT IS MOST  OF US WANT TO NOT ONLY BE SMART, UNDERSTANDING  OUR INTERLOCUTOR, BUT TO LOOK LIKE THAT, EXPRESSION OUR THOUGHTS BEAUTIFULLY AND EFFECTIVELY.

RECOGNIZE A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP..

EVERYONE HAS THEIR VISION OF THE RELATIONSHIP. HOWEVER, THERE ARE SOME FUNDAMENTALS TO DESCRIBE A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP. IF YOU RECOGNIZE YOURSELF THERE IS A GOOD CHANCE THAT THE RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR OTHER HALF WILL BE HEALTHY. TO BE IN A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP IS TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP THAT IS GOOD FOR YOU. THAT MAKES YOU HAPPY. THERE CAN OF COURSE BE ANNOYANCES NUT THESE MUST NOT EXCEED THE JOY, WELL BEING AND HAPPINESS OF BEING TWO. SHARING A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP IS ALSO ABOUT FEELING SAFE. TO TRUST THE OTHER PERSON AND HIS/HER LOVE. WHETHER YOUR COUPLE IS A FUSIONIST OR MORE INDEPENDENT. YOU LIVE TOGETHER AND YOU DEVELOP A RELATIONSHIP FROM A DISTANCE, YOU NEED TO FEEL SAFE. IF YOU FEEL BAD, JEALOUS OR GUILTY REGULARLY, THERE IS A WORRY. IT’S UP TO YOU TO DETERMINE IF IT COMES FROM YOU- COMPLICATED  LOVE, DIFFICULTIES TO TRUST-OR YOUR PARTNER-NOT REASSURING BEHAVIOR… ANYWAY OR WHATEVER THE REASONS, THE BEST IS STILL TO SPEAK ABOUT IT WITH YOUR PARTNER TO CLEAN UP THE RELATIONSHIP. NO QUESTION OF TALKING ABOUT LIBERTINAGE; FEELING FREE IN A RELATIONSHIP MEANS HAVING THE CHOICE TO BE WHO YOU ARE. TO HAVE THE POWER TO STAY YOURSELF. IF YOUR IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP YOU MIGHT FEEL COMPELLED TO CHANGE YOUR PERSONALITY TO DESERVE EACH OTHER’S LOVE.

WONDERS AND REGRETS..

HAVE YOU EVER MEET SOMEONE THAT WAS INTO YOU? BUT YOU WASN’T REALLY INTO THEM. BUT YOU DIDN’T TELL THEM, EVENTUALLY THEY PRETTY MUCH GOT THE PICTURE? THE PERSON TOLD YOU HOW HE/SHE FELT AND STOPPED CONTACTING YOU? I WAS TALKING TO A GUY A MONTH OR TWO AGO. HE REALLY LIKED ME BUT I JUST DIDN’T FEEL THE SAME WAY. HE EVENTUALLY KNEW THAT’S WHAT IT WAS. HE SAID HIS PEACE AND STOP CONTACTING ME. BUT NOW, I’M KIND OF REGRETTING NOT GIVING HIM A CHANCE. I’VE BEEN THINKING ABOUT CONTACTING HIM AGAIN. HAVE YOU EVER HAD THE SAME EXPERIENCE WITH SOMEONE? WHAT DID YOU DO? DID YOU LATER REGRET NOT GIVING THAT PERSON  A CHANCE AND CONTACTED THEM AGAIN OR THOUGHT ABOUT IT?

PAINFUL EXPERIENCES..

LOVE IS NOT SUPPOSE TO BE PAINFUL AT ALL.  YOU CAN LOVE SOMEONE SO MUCH BUT THEY DON’T LOVE YOU AS MUCH. YOU LOVING  THEM ISN’T PAINFUL, IT’S THE FACT THAT YOU KNOW OR SUSPECT THEY DON’T FEEL THE SAME WAY TOWARDS YOU IS WHAT’S PAINFUL. IT HURTS WHEN YOU LOVE AND WANT SOMEONE SO MUCH, BUT THEY DON’T FEEL THE SAME WAY.  SOME PEOPLE WILL SPLIT WITH SOMEONE THAT LOVE THEM WITHOUT LITTLE TO NO EXPLANATION. PEOPLE THAT HAVE HAD THESE KINDS OF EXPERIENCES WOULD PROBABLY SAY “LOVE IS PAINFUL” BUT IN ALL HONESTY, THAT’S JUST NOT TRUE. LOVE ITSELF IS A POSITIVE THING. BUT CERTAIN EXPERIENCES CAN MAKE IT SEEM OTHER WISE. BUT THEN AGAIN, THIS IS MY OPINION.  BECAUSE THEY DON’T FEEL THE SAME WAY YOU DO TOWARDS THEM. SOME PEOPLE TEND TO NOT WANT TO LOVE ANYONE ELSE AFTER THESE KINDS OF EXPERIENCES. THEY BLAME IT ON LOVE AND SAY LOVE IS PAINFUL.  BUT REALLY IT’S THE EXPERIENCE THAT CAUSED THE HURT. BUT WHAT DO YOU THINK? DOES THIS MAKE SENSE TO YOU?sss