UNWILLINGNESS TO LISTEN..

THE FIRST IS THE PRACTICE OF EMPATHETIC LISTENING, AIMED AT UNDERSTANDING THE INTERLOCUTOR; THE SECOND IS THE CRYSTALLIZATION OF THOUGHT, AIMED AT THE TASK OF BEING UNDERSTOOD. IDEALLY, CONSCIOUSLY LISTENING, UNDERSTANDS THE  INTERLOCLUTAR, AND CONSCIOUSLY SPEAKING, CONVEY OUR OWN THOUGHTS IN A REFINED AND CLEAR FORM.
BOTH QUALITIES ARE EQUALLY IMPORTANT, BUT  THE FACT IS THAT NO ONE WANTS TO UNDERSTAND, EVERYONE WANTS TO BE UNDERSTOOD. EVEN IN THE COMMENTS ON THE AFOREMENTIONED ARTICLE, ALMOST EVERYONE SPOKE  AND ASKED QUESTIONS IN  THE FIRST PART OF THE TEXT, WHICH WAS DEVOTED TO THE CLEAR EXPRESSION OF THOUGHTS. THAT IS MOST  OF US WANT TO NOT ONLY BE SMART, UNDERSTANDING  OUR INTERLOCUTOR, BUT TO LOOK LIKE THAT, EXPRESSION OUR THOUGHTS BEAUTIFULLY AND EFFECTIVELY.

SPEAK OUT..

UNDERSTANDING THE OTHER PERSON AND NOT ASKING HIM/HER TO CHANGE DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOU SHOULD NOT SPEAK ABOUT THINGS THAT HURT OR YOU WOULD LIKE TO DO OR HEAR. YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO HAVE DESIRES FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIP AND IT IS ESSENTIAL TO KNOW HOW TO EXPRESS THEM TO YOUR PARTNER- WITHOUT BLAMING HIM/HER. YOU CANT BLAME YOUR PARTNER FOR NOT UNDERSTANDING SOMETHING YOU DID NOT TELL HIM/HER. THAT’S WHAT I FIND MOST DIFFICULT TO DO IN MY RELATIONSHIP. HAVING TROUBLE ASSERTING ON WHAT I WANT, WHAT I LIKE AND WHAT I DON’T WANT. I WOULD LIKE MY COMPANION TO GUESS MY THOUGHTS AND DESIRES WITHOUT ME EXPRESSING THEM. EXCEPT THAT’S NOT POSSIBLE AND THAT IS WRONG SOMETIMES. RATHER THAN BLAME THAT PERSON I LEARN TO BETTER ARTICULATE WHAT I WANT.

HAPPY IN LOVE..

.kjoo TO BE HAPPY IN LOVE IS TO ALREADY LIVE IN ACCORDANCE WITH YOU. ONCE YOU HAVE A CLEARER VISION, THE BEST SOLUTION IS TO TALK AND SHARE YOUR FINDINGS WITH YOUR PARTNER. ” I THINK.. I WANT TO.. I NEED TO.. SHARE BUT DO NOT ASK FOR AN ANSWER IN THE MOMENT: AFTER ALL, YOUR CONCLUSIONS ARE BORN OF A REFLECTION. DON’T TAKE THE LACK OF RESPONSE FROM YOUR PARTNER AS AN AGGRESSION OR AS AN ABSENCE OF FEELING: HE/ SHE MAY ALSO NEED TO TAKE STOCK OF HIS DESIRES. UNDERSTAND THE SINGULARITY OF THE OTHER. THE WORST YOU CAN DO IS COMPARE YOUR LOVE RELATIONSHIP WITH THAT OF A FRIEND. HE/SHE HAS HIS OWN WAY OF EXPRESSING THEMSELVES, OWN WAY OF SHOWING LOVE AND OWN PERSONALITY. OWN EMOTIONAL WOUNDS AS WELL. MAKE THE EFFORT TO UNDERSTAND THE SINGULARITY OF THE OTHER IS THE FIRST KEY TO MAINTAINING ONE’S RELATIONSHIP. IT WILL ALLOW HIM/HER TO FEEL FREE, UNDERSTOOD, AND CONFIDENT AND FULFILLED.